Tag Archive for 'girls'

October 14, 2008

Love as a myth?

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Jay Farmington
on October 14, 2008
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Alright I don’t rant much these day but I need to say something atleast for my own peace of mind. Instead of having some sort of preface I’m just going to out and say it. Why do some women insist on having shit relationships? Like not shitty women either… some of the best girls end up with some of the biggest losers and scum bags I’ve ever seen. Dudes I wouldn’t even talk to in a store find their way into some excellent girls hearts. Worse than that some of these girls think they got themselves a real catch! Now far be it from me to judge others but damn, I just can’t help make a point. I digress. I believe girls know exactly what they are doing. I believe they know that nothing but disaster is waiting for them down the road. I guess each failed attempt is one step closer to winning. I just can’t understand why this is necessary.

Some of the best girls I know insist on sinking to such low levels to find “love”. It’s really disheartening. I am not telling them to get with me, that’s not what this is about. Some of them I could never date but I am just shocked at some of the desperate actions taken. Like can you really sit there and convince yourself that some random dude is going to solve all of your problems? Can some random ass dude who 8 times out of 10 is just trying to get laid gives 2 shits about how you feel… or even getting deep enough to understand how you feel? I am just of the body of thought that nothing or NO ONE can fix your problems or make your happy, only yourself. You can’t get a guy and be complete. You need to be complete first. That’s like moving away because you think a change of scenery will fix all of your problems. Sure for about a month things will be great! Shortly after that boom… garbage. Back to the same cycle. Back to the same sad face.

This isn’t just girls, it’s guys too. Some guys just can’t be without a girl. Even if the girl is a liar, scumbag, slob, or leech. Some dudes just need to have a “gf!” and they don’t care about loosing themselves, their friends, or their self respect. Just as long as they have some girl who they can convince to love them and call at night. I am sorry if I just can’t put myself in those shoes but I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than impede on my integrity, self respect, and rapport with other peers.

I am not trying to be mean or act like I am above anyone. I am speaking from experience when I say loosing yourself inside a need is no different than any addiction. The key is being aware of these habits. Some will and some won’t. All I know is the ladies I know are phenomenal… atleast some of them are! Hahaha. You are all wonderful… REALIZE THIS! Create an excellent life for yourselves first! Leave the scum at the bottom of the pond. You will have your day in the sun.

And to the dudes? Man up. Stop being some chump punks. Find yourself, then find a girl who likes that person. Not someone you convince daily to love you back.

June 10, 2008

The Ladies of Slackerstyle Studios

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Jay Farmington
on June 10, 2008
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Yesterday I was at the beach, the sun and I did battle. I don’t know who was the clear cut winner but I am burnt on places I didn’t know you could get burned. Places like the sides of my fingers? How does that happen haha! Randy and I were joined in Rhode Island by Chrissy, Kelly, and Nicole and we beached it up, Iggy’d is up and came home and slept it up like whoa.

Did some photo work with Chrissy’s camera and had a few key images come out really sick. For more on that please visit my Flickr. Outside that not much going on. My Mother’s new store is opening soon and the website will launch around the same time. Not really 100% on the look of the site but I’m sure as the days pass I will get it together.

So anyway back to the title of this post… The Ladies of Slackerstyle Studios. I would like to introduce the world and all of my readers to The Photography of Nicole Roseann a.k.a. Nikki Rose. She is the newest member of the Slackerstyle Family and the first member to be added in like 5+ years. Nicole has a great eye for photos and has some amazing work to share with everyone. Check out her online portfolio and leave some thoughts.

The other misses is Chrissy Xo (http://chrissyxo.wordpress.com/), she has started her own blog. While she isn’t hosted at slackerstyle.com (we might have to change that) she is always considered apart of the SSDC Family. While her online presence is very new I consider her blog an important aspect and extension to her existence and personality. Chrissy has had first hand experience with a lot of “life lessons” and makes it known in her writing. I recommend anyone looking for something new and fun to read to check her out.

That’s  that for now, as usual follow @jayfarmington at twitter.com for any sort of updates that I don’t really write about here.

/Jay

April 28, 2008

My Disavowal

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Jay Farmington
on April 28, 2008
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This is a rant, if you don’t want to know then don’t bother reading. I am tired, sore, and fed up. I think back and remember things I proclaimed as my truths. Things I set my heart on, things I deemed as my beliefs. I once said I would die for the things I believe. Yet here I am years later and if I am honest with myself I should have died long ago if I stuck to my convictions. I bend, I overlook, I allow that which makes my blood boil to infect my life. This is my disavowal, my proclamation to myself to no longer associate with the poison surrounding me.

I reject those who make a fortune off of my hard work while I am left to fend for myself. I have a standard to keep, both personal and professional. I do not create crap and I’m sorry you do. I no longer accept people taking from me, using me, lining their pockets with my hours and hours of frustration and creativity, leaving me with nothing so much as a thank you. No longer will I “give away” my life’s work for free to those who only exploit it.

I reject those who take and steal from me in all aspects; emotionally, mentally, physically, and creatively. I don’t need leeches sucking the blood from my body. I hardly have enough blood pumping in my veins to sustain as is. I am not your boyfriend, I am not your buddy, I am not your friend, I am not your pal. I don’t need you to exploit me, my good nature, or my heart that rests firmly on my sleeve. I apreciate that you apreciate me, I am honored but there is a line, there is an etiquette, and there is an amount of respect that needs to be upheld. I am not a civil service job, you don’t come and go as you please. If you are my friend then be a fucking friend. If you aren’t… get lost. Don’t show up with your hand out and expect anything from me. Take, take, take. Try giving.

I reject those who do not apreciate me, more so those who front like they do. I am not a fucking country club that is open to you when you are in the mood. I don’t fix things when they go wrong for you to make the same mistakes again. Learn or fail, there is no other option. I am a human being with feelings, as much as I may not show them my heart beats just like yours. Cut my skin and I will bleed. Also, I am not a brothel, I’m not here to help you get laid. I don’t care who did what and I care less about why it happened. Finally, I do not belong to you. I don’t need to report to you where I’ve been, what I’ve been doing, and why. Don’t ask in any soft of negative way. You don’t own me.

I reject the jackals. I will not give my heart to a girl who does not know how to keep it. I am not a child anymore and I refuse to love a child. I don’t need my heart stepped on, I don’t need to be lied to. I am not here to buy you shit, I am not here to compete with your current boyfriend who sucks. If you want me, leave him, and I don’t mean cheat on him with me. I’m not going to convince you, if you feel it then get into it, otherwise stay with your boyfriend and have a good ‘ol time. I am not going to buy your love. So no matter what you heard I was about in the past keep your application because I’m not into people like you. I am done chasing. I’ve dated the best and the worst, you ain’t shit. Get over yourself. No hussies either, thanks.

I reject those who do not respect themselves. What is wrong with you? Why do you continue to sink into shit? Are you so unhappy? Are you so insecure? What happened to you? Another boyfriend, another girlfriend, another waste of time. Addicted to a monotonous lifestyle. Why can’t you hold out for something special. Try reaching for the stars. Nope, right off the rip, dick out, or legs spread, trying to find that prime you once lived. It’s gone. And with every new venture you lose sight of yourself, who you are and who you were. Why can’t you have some respect for yourself and stand for something. I reject watching you fall for everything. I reject knowing you have disgraced your name. I’d rather live alone forever than live one day as you. I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees.

Signed sincerely,
/Jay